Taking the first step towards counselling can feel daunting, especially if you’ve never done it before. For a lot of men, there’s a fear of the unknown: What actually happens in a session? Will I be judged? Do I have to talk about things I’m not ready for? These are all normal questions. The good news is, starting counselling is far less intimidating than most guys expect, and it can be one of the best moves you ever make for your wellbeing.

If you’re curious about counselling but not sure what to expect, this guide is for you. I’ll walk you through what counselling really looks like, answer some common concerns, and give you a sense of what happens from the very first contact to your first session and beyond.

Why Men Hesitate to Start Counselling

Before we get into the “how,” let’s acknowledge the elephant in the room: most men hesitate before reaching out. Sometimes it’s the belief that you should be able to handle things on your own. Other times, it’s the worry that counselling will be awkward, pointless, or uncomfortable. You might even doubt whether counselling will actually work for you.

Here’s the reality: counselling isn’t about being “fixed” or forced to talk about things you’d rather avoid. It’s about having a relaxed, judgment-free space to work through whatever’s on your mind, at your own pace.

What to Expect When You Start Counselling

1. The First Contact

Most men begin by reaching out online, maybe filling in a contact form and requesting a free 15-minute call back. This first chat is just that: a relaxed, no-pressure conversation. You can ask questions, share a bit about what’s going on, and get a feel for whether I would be someone you’re comfortable working with.

You’re not signing your life away. There’s no obligation to continue if it doesn’t feel right. The goal of this call is to break the ice and help you decide if counselling is a good fit.

2. Booking Your First Session

If you decide to move forward, you’ll usually book your first full session online. At mantomancounselling.com.au, you pick a time that works for you, no waiting rooms, no awkward phone calls. Everything is handled online, and you stay in control of your schedule.

3. What Happens in the First Session?

The first session is all about getting to know you. There’s no pressure to share your deepest secrets or talk about anything you’re not ready for. Instead, we’ll talk about what’s brought you to counselling, what you hope to get out of it, and any concerns you might have.

You set the pace. Some men like to get straight into what’s on their mind, while others prefer to take their time talking about what’s up. Both are completely fine. My job as a counsellor is to listen, offer support, and help you find practical ways to move forward, never to judge, push you or tell you what to do.

4. Setting Goals (If You Want To)

A lot of men find it helpful to have something to work towards. If you’re comfortable, we can set some goals together. Goals to help you feel less anxious, improve confidence, or working through grief. But if you’re not sure what you want yet, that’s okay too. Sometimes just having a space to talk things through is enough to start with.

5. Confidentiality and Privacy

Everything you share in counselling is confidential. That means what you say stays between us (with a few legal exceptions, which will always be explained up front). You don’t have to worry about your business being shared with anyone else.

6. What About Homework?

Some men worry they’ll be given “homework” or forced to do things outside their comfort zone. In reality, any between-session activities are always your choice. Sometimes I’ll suggest things to try, like journaling, reflecting, or practising a new skill, but you’re never forced to do anything that doesn’t feel right.

7. How Many Sessions Will I Need?

There’s no set number. Some men feel better after just a few sessions, while others choose to keep going for longer-term support. You’re in the driver’s seat. You can stop, pause, or continue as you need.

Common Myths About Counselling—Busted

“Counselling is just talking about feelings.”
It’s about more than that. Yes, you’ll talk about what’s going on, but you’ll also get practical tools and strategies to help you move forward.

“I’ll have to relive painful memories.”
You only talk about what you’re comfortable with. Counselling moves at your pace.

“Counselling is for people who are broken.”
Not true. Counselling is for anyone who wants to improve their life, handle stress better, or just get a bit of extra support.

“It won’t work for me.”
Many men are surprised by how helpful counselling can be, even if they were sceptical at first.

Taking the First Step

Starting counselling can feel like a big step, but it’s really just a small step in the right direction. You don’t have to have everything figured out. You don’t have to wait until things get worse. If you’re even a little bit curious about how counselling could help, why not book a free 15 minute call back? No pressure, no obligation, just a chance to see if it feels right for you.

You can book your call at mantomancounselling.com.au. I’ve been where you are, and I know taking that first step is the hardest part. But you might just find it’s the best thing you ever do for yourself.