Most of us want something more for ourselves, but few actually take the steps to achieve it. Deep down, we know our strengths and the value what we bring to the table—we just wish others could see it too. It’s easy to believe that if someone else acknowledges our potential, then it must be real. But waiting for external validation is a common trap, especially when we’re facing tough times.

Often, we hope that a new job, a new friendship, or a new situation will help us see ourselves differently. We want others to recognize our worth and inspire us to grow. In reality, though, relying on outside approval often masks our own insecurities. We end up waiting for someone else to change our circumstances, rather than taking charge ourselves.

I’ve been there myself. When I hit difficult periods in my life, sometimes I found myself slipping into a victim mindset—believing that my situation was the result of things outside my control. But as time passed, I realized that no one was coming to save me. If I wanted things to change, I had to take responsibility for my own future.

Don’t Let the Past or Present Define You

It’s normal to feel pain, frustration, or disappointment when life doesn’t go as planned. But letting the past or your current circumstances dictate your future only keeps you stuck. Blaming your situation on other people, bad luck, or past mistakes removes your power to make change. The truth is, your future is in your hands—and you have the agency to shape it, no matter where you’re starting from.

Reclaiming Agency and Creating Your Next Chapter
Taking back control of your life starts with a simple question:
Who do you want to be at the end of this challenge? When you ask yourself this, you open the door to creating a new and improved version of yourself. You’re not defined by what’s happened to you—you’re defined by how you respond and who you choose to become.

This is your chance to set new goals, build new habits, and create a life that feels meaningful and aligned with your values. As you grow and change, you’ll naturally attract new opportunities and relationships that reflect your new sense of self.

Moving Forward Starts With a Choice
Nobody wants to feel stuck—going in circles, weighed down by old hurts or missed opportunities. The key is to accept where you are, stop blaming the past, and make an intentional choice to move forward. Decide who you want to become, and start taking small steps in that direction every day.

If you’re looking for support as you work through life’s challenges and want to build a future you’re proud of, book a free 15-minute call back and let’s talk about what’s next for you.